Episode 5 - Finding Your Purpose Is Like Finding Love

Ever notice people talk about "finding" purpose the same way they talk about "finding" love — like it's out there somewhere, just waiting for you to bump it into it?

Believe it or not positive psychology support this in a way. It frames a flourishing life right up there next to relationships — and researchers who study this stuff, will tell you meaning isn't something you stumble onto. It's something you build. Same as love, honestly.

Nobody falls in love with a stranger they've spent no time with — the romance is kindled from showing up, again and again, past the point where it stopped feeling exciting.

Purpose works the same way. You don't get clarity first and then commit. You commit first — to something uncertain, something that might not work — and the clarity shows up later, as a byproduct of sticking with it.

So if you're sitting around waiting to feel your purpose before you go after it... that's like waiting to feel in love before you go on the second and third and fourth date.

Purpose is the same, it shows up when you refuse to quit.